Why Do Men Cheat?

I've asked this question a number of times and I've received all sorts of responses. While some people may argue that not all men cheat, that's not the issue. For the ones that do, why do they? Here are some of the responses I've received, some from men and some from women. (Please share any others you may have).

*Men are just wired that way.

*It's hard to stick to one fruit when you can have a fruit salad.

*One can't keep eating Egusi soup every day, some days you try Okro, Banga, Bitterleaf etc

*Men are naturally polygamous. There's nothing that can be done about it.

*Men only cheat when they are not treated right.

*So many Ice-cream flavours. It's a simple matter of grabbing a spoon.

*Men are dogs... and have eyes for every b*tch (Aren't dogs supposed to be loyal?)

*It's not a big deal, as long as he's taking care of things at home (what does this even mean?)

All sorts... 

These responses remind me of a piece written by Viola Ifeyinwa Okolie and directed at the men - 


Do you know that everyday a woman walks down the street, she sees fine specimen of manhood she likes? And that they come in all ages, shapes and sizes?

Do you know that when women see these men, their bodies rise to the occasion? ...the feminine equivalent of male soldiers standing to attention only more discreet than their male counterparts?

Do you know that women could have sexual fantasies about people you may know and interact with? Your best friend, your friend's son, your neighbour, that rich dude down the street, the young struggling corp member or intern in your office?

Do you know that women could therefore also be said to be "polygamous by nature" because their sex alarms don't go off ONLY when they see your body?

Do you know why that phrase cannot be used for women? {That's} because more often than not, they pull themselves back to reality and take a look at you, your balding head, spreading midsection, bulges, burps and farts and as you lie there on the sofa with your feet up on the table scratching your hairy balls through your ragged boxers they think: "here's the man I committed to. Let my fantasies just remain fantasies, I'll remain loyal and true to this man because I promised I would"

And they do.

Most women.

It's called integrity, fidelity, loyalty and trustworthiness. Please don't hide your lack of values and integrity under "men are polygamous by nature", that is just a clueless lie.

You are not.

You just don't have enough moral fibre.

And please don't quote advice on men and relationships from Amber Rose, just let me know when Michelle Obama is dispensing advice on relationships.

I'd listen to HER. I might agree or disagree but trust me, I'd LISTEN and respect her views, however different they are from mine.


Do you agree? Share your thoughts in the comments.


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  1. The write up is just on point. Men cant just keep it in one place

  2. But they always expect us to be faithful

  3. Nigerian men cheat because Nigerian women let them get away with it

    1. Good point. I bet if there were grave consequences like losing all they got, they would calm down.

  4. It's not only men. Women cheat too and they are even worse than men

    1. True, women also cheat.

      You should check out today's post on why women cheat. Lol!


  5. I absolutely love this! Especially the later part of it. Men shaaaa

  6. If only we as ladies/women will also set standards for ourselves letting them understand that we are not to be degraded or disrespected maybe...just maybe then, they'll start taking us more seriously...we all can't and will not be Annie Idibia *didn't say anything*

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